When I was in my 20’s I thought I knew it all…
…until I didn’t.
Here are some of the myths that were shattered when I faced the real world.
IT’S ALL ABOUT THE PASSION
To a certain extent, it’s true. I certainly believe that passion matters, but it’s also about being practical. Money does matter because your bills aren’t going to pay themselves. I believe that there’s a perfect compromise between passion and financial stability. Find it and live your dream!
HARD WORK EQUALS GOOD RESULTS—ALWAYS!
Fresh from college I had the notion that everything that I worked hard for was going to garner good results. In school, when I studied hard, I got high grades, which is how I thought it would pan out when started by career. Boy was I in for a rude awakening.
I realized that no matter how passionate I am about my career, it will not be perfect. There will still be stress and there will still be times when my best is not what my boss wants. Life is not all rainbows and butterflies. As a professional, I developed thicker skin, humility, and I learned not to take things personally.
I WOULD MARRY A BACKSTREET BOY
of course, even then, I wasn’t that delusional. [lol!] But I did hope that I would be with someone similar to the guys I read in romance movies and novels. Now, I still have standards, but I don’t exist in dreamland anymore. Overall, I want to be with someone who genuinely loves me. Realistically, this someone must have a stable job, a great personality, and must not be hard to look at. [What? I said I grew up. That doesn’t meant I can’t hope anymore. Hahaha!]
IT’S ALL ABOUT INNER BEAUTY
You don’t have to be shallow and make your life revolve on how you look, but you should also invest the time to take care of how you look. People will always tend to judge what they see first. I’m not saying that it’s all that matters, but it ALSO matters.
BE A GOOD PERSON AND PEOPLE WILL BE GOOD TO YOU
Being a good person doesn’t mean you have to be naïve too. You also have to protect yourself from people who don’t have you best interest at heart. Don’t be a jaded skeptic, but also don’t be a victim.
Yes, growing up was a tough eye-opener, but it certainly made me stronger. I won’t ever lose the dreamer in me, but at least now, I’ve developed the realist in me as well.